Fear of failure
As I've mentioned in previous posts, I had grand plans for my retirement. I was going to jump into writing my book, exercise every day, create a magnificent stained glass project, become a great and courageous cook...none of that has happened yet (although, it's only been six weeks and if I was talking to a friend and not to myself, I'd cut my friend some slack!). The excuse I used when I was working was lack of time. Now I realize that time was never the problem; my fear of failing is the problem.
I'm afraid of spending all day cooking some marvelous recipe only to have it taste horrible. What a waste!!! I fear using my supply of beautiful stained glass to create something that is really just plain ugly. I am afraid of getting into an exercise regimen and turning into an exercise addict; that may not seem like a failure, but it is when exercising becomes more important than time with family and friends. Been there, done that, and although I looked fabulous (so I was told), I don't want to be that person again.
My family and friends would be surprised to know that I spend a lot of my life afraid. After all, I jumped out of an airplane, I went parasailing, I tackled monster ziplines, I got my hair cut so short that it looked shaved, I have three tattoos in very visible places, I started my PhD studies at age 50, and on and on.
With the support of my friend and former professor Dr. Bill Kirby, I began this blog. I am proud of it and I think it helps me overcome some of my fear. Putting myself out there is a bit scary. I've only told a few people about this blog; they are people I know I can trust. I'm afraid of failing. But, I'm proud of myself for continuing to try. That in itself is a huge victory.
Tomorrow: stained glass, just a little bit to get my confidence back. I know I can do this; I just need to continue to work on overcoming my own worst enemy. That would be me.
I'm afraid of spending all day cooking some marvelous recipe only to have it taste horrible. What a waste!!! I fear using my supply of beautiful stained glass to create something that is really just plain ugly. I am afraid of getting into an exercise regimen and turning into an exercise addict; that may not seem like a failure, but it is when exercising becomes more important than time with family and friends. Been there, done that, and although I looked fabulous (so I was told), I don't want to be that person again.
My family and friends would be surprised to know that I spend a lot of my life afraid. After all, I jumped out of an airplane, I went parasailing, I tackled monster ziplines, I got my hair cut so short that it looked shaved, I have three tattoos in very visible places, I started my PhD studies at age 50, and on and on.
With the support of my friend and former professor Dr. Bill Kirby, I began this blog. I am proud of it and I think it helps me overcome some of my fear. Putting myself out there is a bit scary. I've only told a few people about this blog; they are people I know I can trust. I'm afraid of failing. But, I'm proud of myself for continuing to try. That in itself is a huge victory.
Tomorrow: stained glass, just a little bit to get my confidence back. I know I can do this; I just need to continue to work on overcoming my own worst enemy. That would be me.
You know my own blog is called FEAR, Fun and Filoz. I think that fear is the most common reaction, not just with humans but all living things. Fear saves their lives. A good friend of mine parodied a fearless caveman whose wife urged him to reconsider his plan to assault a dragon. She wanted him alive and well, not mangled and dead. Some people define bravery as proceeding while fearing. You are doing that.
ReplyDeleteI want to tell you that I read some of your blog to my wife, who started her PhD when she was 49. It was this section:
As I've mentioned in previous posts, I had grand plans for my retirement. I was going to jump into writing my book, exercise every day, create a magnificent stained glass project, become a great and courageous cook...none of that has happened yet (although, it's only been six weeks ...
As a student teacher, I was not happy that I had been a student teacher for three weeks and had not set a world record for excellent teaching. I complained to several of my professors. All but one sympathized and mentioned alternatives to teaching that I could immediately switch to.The one who had a different view asked me how long I have been student teaching. "Three weeks?!! How long do you think I have been teaching?" She was a lively, elderly woman with a white bun of hair at the back of her white head. I hesitated, not wanting to be insulting. She ignored my hesitation and advised to get back to the classroom and give teaching at least two years. I did and it was good advice. Take it easy. It may be six years, not six months.