Please, for the love of God and all that is holy, STOP TALKING!

Apparently I have become a compulsive talker.  I say things that would be better left unsaid.  I feel compelled to fill the silence.  About a year ago I was serving on a hiring committee.  One of the candidates had just left the room after giving a not quite stellar interview.  Nobody spoke; I guess we were all trying to find a way to say nicely what we were thinking: this was a terrible interview.  One of committee members looked at me and said, "Well, Victoria?"  I know I'm not the smartest person in the room, but I may be the one most likely to say something, anything.  

 My colleagues honored me with a retirement celebration a few months ago.  One of the recurring themes was my "contributions" to meetings.  I miss talking with my colleagues.  I miss holding meetings and speaking at events.  

 It wasn't always this way.  I was painfully shy as a child.  After my freshman year in a large Catholic high school, I begged my parents to let me attend the private, all girls St. Mary of the Angels Academy.  Even there, I struggled.  In graduate school, I spent an entire semester losing sleep over the presentation we were required to give the last week of class.  I was paralyzed with fear, feeling nauseated and faint.  How did I become the endlessly blabbing idiot that I am today?  That's a rhetorical question.  I honestly don't know.

 I can tell you that my blithering has gotten worse since I retired.  Because I am alone now more than ever, I really let loose when I do get out.  I find myself telling total strangers things that they need not know.  I embarrass my husband and my children; it's a disease.  I'm investigating support groups, but I'm afraid that the meetings might go on forever with everyone vying for their time to be heard, and nobody hearing anyone but themselves.  

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  1. BillSeptember 13, 2019 at 7:43 AM

    Maybe you need a YouTube channel of your own or your own podcast. Meanwhile, attend a Quaker meeting for worship. And mediatate.

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